Trust... Earned when Actions meet with Words.

 

Trust... a thin boundary which grows wider over the years with efforts spent, with realizations and sense of believe that creeps inside us making us feel comfortable gradually.

So, how does it happen? Manually or Automatically? Actually both. You do things for a person, who may be anyone in your life, out of your own will that makes the other person believe that there is a certain understanding and comfort. This sows the first sapling of belief. With time and more of such gestures, the sapling gets the nourishment needed to grow, automatically.

So far so good. Right? Yes.

"Without communication there is no relationship, without respect there is no love. Without TRUST, there is no reason to continue." 

Its good to have few people in life whom you can reach out for or just be assured that they are there. Its a great feeling... super great! These few people give you the mental peace and assurance even if you are not regularly in touch. You just feel motivated and optimistic by being around a few people. You feel a lot of positive energy around. A sense of relief that if somethings goes unplanned you can reach out to them. They understand what you say and sometimes what you don't after a period of time. Its equally important to trust people around you by treating them fairly. Believing in them and giving them a chance to prove it just like you would have wished.

Trusting your family, your friends, your partner or your colleagues. Trusting the conditions, situations and believing in the outcomes. It is everywhere if you think.

BUT...How can everything go as planned? Its life right... It has its own ingredients of making a cocktail. So where's the twist?

"Trust takes years to build, seconds to break and forever to repair."

Trust do gives you positive energy but what if the person you happened to trust knowingly/unknowingly broke it? If someday you get to know that your faith was being thrashed?

It hurts. A lot. Depends on how long you have had this belief. How much effort you put in for this trust to get flourished. Its not at all easy to stand it if it breaches. The positive energy as a whole seems like soaked out of your body and you can feel the negativity creeping in. To manage this is one part, the other is to believe that you can trust again. Too much.. no?

"Trust is like a mirror. Once its broken its never seen again and no matter how hard you try to put it back together, the cracks will always show."

Isn't it a better option to not trust anybody ever? Many people might be doing that already but I feel be it businessman or politicians, they also need to trust one or the other person. You can't stop living because of the fear of death, right? So a more practical way should be to not blind trust anybody and let this process get matured over a sufficient period of time. Till then keep your eyes and ears open. Don't assume things to just be but keep validating. This won't guarantee that you won't face setbacks but yes reduce the chances of it for sure. So, 

    "Fool me once, shame on You. Fool me Twice, shame on Me."       

Expectations !

Its such a common term that everyone of us must have come across it, used it numerous times in our regular conversations. Being humans it seems its too common in most of us. 

Expectations from our family, friends, spouses and kids. Expectations of something which we feel is going to happen or which should happen. It may be a dream, a job, some passion, something you want to have.  And for obvious reasons you expect only positive things, that will make you rejoice. Something which indirectly will affect our well being, happiness and mood. Something if doesn't happen may bother our minds directly or indirectly a lot. 

If  we go and ask a number of people, most of them will say "Its common to have Expectations. Everybody expects something or the other. Its NATURAL! But have we ever pondered over it? Is it Good or Bad for us? If this can become toxic for someone or is it harmless? If you haven't ever given it a thought, give yourself some moments to let it sink in....

Now, I can just express what I experienced about it.

I am in the herd of  majority of people who used to have a lot of Expectations in life. I still have but its reduced a lot over the period of time with some experiences. Expectations, specially from other people around. 

Every time this thought used to hit me, I would think why do I expect things? From where it seeps inside me? I got too many answers but none of them were good enough to help me eradicate it. And trust me some times it hurts too much. Depends on the situations, specially for people who are emotional like me. 

Over the time I felt, if possible, or in whatever capacity, Try to 

    Keep Expectations but from your own self. That way if it does not get fulfilled, you will know the reason and you will know what is needed to fulfill it, which will be most of the time totally under your control.

     If you have had Expectations from someone in your life, your parents, friends anybody around you, keep reasonable ones, NOT too high. If they failed to fulfill it, try to understand the reason. You might feel okay after knowing the reasons behind. Put whatever effort is possible from your side, if you feel you should, to make it happen.

 

    Think twice that what you are expecting is reasonable or not? If it is and it is something which is out of your hands, Just Accept It. If it's unacceptable for you for some reason, choose your own way. Don't let it hurt you or haunt you. There might be other alternatives, other ways to achieve the same happiness. 

    Sometimes you may never get it. Being sad or upset about something for too long is also not healthy. 

So Cheer Up! 😀

1. Try to find happiness in whatever you can. Try to be happy with your own self more. Develop hobbies, so so many things to do. Find what cheers you up.

2. Make friends but don't depend on them and don't expect much. Those who bond well will stay, those who don't will move on. Everyone is free to do what they like. Let them.

3. Appreciate small small things, people, those who are there for you selflessly. IT MATTERS. It can bring a smile to someone's face. Make yours or somebody's day.

4. Be true to yourself and to others. Don't commit on something you not sure about. 

Its not easy to do but its not IMPOSSIBLE too 😅

Lets Smile, Stay Healthy, Make each other happy and spread smiles across.

At Last, there is this scene from Movie "Dear Zindagi" which I love watching to again and again. Hope you enjoy it!

PS: Would love to hear your views on Expectations. Feel free to put your views in comments 👇

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