Expectations !

Its such a common term that everyone of us must have come across it, used it numerous times in our regular conversations. Being humans it seems its too common in most of us. 

Expectations from our family, friends, spouses and kids. Expectations of something which we feel is going to happen or which should happen. It may be a dream, a job, some passion, something you want to have.  And for obvious reasons you expect only positive things, that will make you rejoice. Something which indirectly will affect our well being, happiness and mood. Something if doesn't happen may bother our minds directly or indirectly a lot. 

If  we go and ask a number of people, most of them will say "Its common to have Expectations. Everybody expects something or the other. Its NATURAL! But have we ever pondered over it? Is it Good or Bad for us? If this can become toxic for someone or is it harmless? If you haven't ever given it a thought, give yourself some moments to let it sink in....

Now, I can just express what I experienced about it.

I am in the herd of  majority of people who used to have a lot of Expectations in life. I still have but its reduced a lot over the period of time with some experiences. Expectations, specially from other people around. 

Every time this thought used to hit me, I would think why do I expect things? From where it seeps inside me? I got too many answers but none of them were good enough to help me eradicate it. And trust me some times it hurts too much. Depends on the situations, specially for people who are emotional like me. 

Over the time I felt, if possible, or in whatever capacity, Try to 

    Keep Expectations but from your own self. That way if it does not get fulfilled, you will know the reason and you will know what is needed to fulfill it, which will be most of the time totally under your control.

     If you have had Expectations from someone in your life, your parents, friends anybody around you, keep reasonable ones, NOT too high. If they failed to fulfill it, try to understand the reason. You might feel okay after knowing the reasons behind. Put whatever effort is possible from your side, if you feel you should, to make it happen.

 

    Think twice that what you are expecting is reasonable or not? If it is and it is something which is out of your hands, Just Accept It. If it's unacceptable for you for some reason, choose your own way. Don't let it hurt you or haunt you. There might be other alternatives, other ways to achieve the same happiness. 

    Sometimes you may never get it. Being sad or upset about something for too long is also not healthy. 

So Cheer Up! 😀

1. Try to find happiness in whatever you can. Try to be happy with your own self more. Develop hobbies, so so many things to do. Find what cheers you up.

2. Make friends but don't depend on them and don't expect much. Those who bond well will stay, those who don't will move on. Everyone is free to do what they like. Let them.

3. Appreciate small small things, people, those who are there for you selflessly. IT MATTERS. It can bring a smile to someone's face. Make yours or somebody's day.

4. Be true to yourself and to others. Don't commit on something you not sure about. 

Its not easy to do but its not IMPOSSIBLE too 😅

Lets Smile, Stay Healthy, Make each other happy and spread smiles across.

At Last, there is this scene from Movie "Dear Zindagi" which I love watching to again and again. Hope you enjoy it!

PS: Would love to hear your views on Expectations. Feel free to put your views in comments 👇

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